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Jan 02 2014

Resolutions

There is something exhilarating about the start of a new year. It symbolizes a fresh start, a clean slate. It’s a time of reflection. What changes do I need to make this year to live my best life? I am someone who really embraces the start of a new year and is excited about the possibilities that the year will bring. What is funny to me is that nothing changes from Dec 31st to Jan 1st. Yes, the year has changed, but nothing physically has really changed. January 1st is just another day just like any other, but on this day, we feel that fresh start.  We feel the possibilities that have been buried. We put the previous year behind us and allow ourselves to let go and move forward. January 1st has so much power!! What is sad to me is that in the days that follow, people start to lose that excitement. They make a commitment to eat healthy and when they drive thru Burger King a week later they feel as if they’ve broken that commitment and they stop trying. So often we fall back into old habits and when we do, we judge ourselves so harshly which only reinforces the habit. 

It has been said that “old habits die hard”. Some people can break a habit over night, but most can’t. It takes time and recommitment. If you find yourself falling back into old habits that you hoped to change, the last thing to do is to stop trying. The last thing to do is judge yourself. That is where you will stay stuck. Instead, start again. Start over and over and over until you accomplish that goal. On a recent episode of Super Soul Sunday (my FAVORITE show!!) Jack Kornfield, a renowned spiritual teacher, said, “We as human beings have the amazing ability to be reborn at breakfast everyday and say this is a new day, who will I be?” I love that and it’s so very true! You don’t have to wait till next Jan 1st to start again. Let every single day be Jan 1st. Start fresh everyday. Recommit to your dreams everyday. Recommit to your goals. Know you are worthy and dream as big as you can. No little dreams in 2014. Shoot for the stars! What if you don’t get there? Well at least you can say you tried and you will have no regrets. What if you do? I’m shooting big this year – real BIG. Nothing is standing in my way.  Join me…

Oct 22 2013

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Aug 05 2013

We hear all the time how breakfast is the most important meal of the day and that eating a good breakfast is essential to starting your day off right.  I agree, but in my opinion, starting your day off right is a decision you make before you even consider what to eat for breakfast.  To me, “starting your day off right” is a decision you make the second you open your eyes.  The second you awake, you have the option to choose your day.  Dr. Wayne Dyer says, “You can either say, Good Morning God! Or you can say, Good God – Morning.”  Truly the choice is yours.  What I know to be true is whatever you choose will follow you throughout the day. 

When I open my eyes, I make a conscious decision to embrace the day.  I start my thoughts in gratitude and declare my blessings.  I call forth in faith that which I would like to accomplish and I state my affirmations for the day (ex: I AM blessed, I AM strong, I AM abundant etc).  That which I declare, I KNOW to be true and in that faith, it has already been done. 

Before reading my emails or looking at my phone, I try to take at least 10 minutes and meditate.  I just focus on my breath, quiet my mind and root myself in the present moment.  I know that when I start my day rooted in presence, I will stand firm.  The winds may blow through the day (sometimes really strong winds) but when I am rooted, I will bend, not break.  Days when I skip this process and the winds blow, I am tossed all about.  It’s not fun.

I share this with you today, because my mentors Oprah and Deepak Chopra started their 21 day meditation challenge today.  You can still sign up and it’s FREE!!!!  Use this link to sign up https://chopracentermeditation.com/home/index

Give it a shot!  What do you have to lose?  It takes just 10 minutes a day and can be life changing if you are open to the process.

Stillness is where it all starts.  If you are looking for answers and can’t find them, get quiet.  I promise you they will appear.  Start your day off right!  Don’t give it away to fear.  Own it in faith.  Your dreams are yours to claim

May 27 2013

All of us have had experiences in our life when we felt cheated, betrayed, let down, taken advantage of, lied to, etc. It’s not a good feeling. It hurts.  Our knee jerk reaction is to hurt back. We live the story over and over in our heads and it gets bigger and we become more upset. We share it with others who validate those feelings and it again becomes bigger and we become even more upset. Our minds scream of injustice and plot revenge. The sadness continues. The anger gets bigger. The resentment grows. I would say that at one point or another it has happened to every single one of us. Unfortunately it is a part of the world we live in. Yuck.

It has certainly happened to me many times. I am someone who loves and trusts BIG. I am someone who is not afraid to be vulnerable. When I give someone my love and trust, it is real. My word truly is my honor. Having that trust broken has been devastating to me at times in my life. What I know now is that we are 100% responsible for our lives and blaming others will get you nowhere.  Did that person break my heart? Yes, but who gave it to them to break? We have to own our actions. When we do, we can reset and start over.  When we blame someone else, we have to wait for them to accept responsibility and we could wait a long time.  Possibly forever.  Who has time for that?

We have all been told at one time or another to “take the high road”. It is great advice, but not always easy for us to do. Sometimes we think that if we take the high road then that other person will get away with what they did! We want justice and taking the high road lets them off the hook.  Not at all. The exact opposite is true.  Taking the high road is the only choice. In doing so, you give the universe the power to right your wrongs for you. On the high road, you take responsibility for yourself. You forgive yourself. You move forward faster than you would on any other road.  The sad thing is, not a lot of people take the high road. They take the low along with everyone else and are stuck in a huge traffic jam.  What happens in a traffic jam… you get nowhere.  Take the high road my friends.  It’s a lot less crowded and you will fly to where you want to go… 

Mar 19 2013

I was always told growing up that I was a good story teller (a trait I inherited from my Grandpa Joe). In my college sorority I was voted “Best Story Teller” every single year. I look back at those times and those stories and they were full of love and humor and joy. They reflected my life. My “story” was only ever happy and my life was happy.

 

In 2009 when the recession hit and I was losing my business and home, my “story” changed. My new story was entitled “Poor Me”. Everyday was a poor me day. The more I declared life’s injustice the more injustice would appear to validate my declaration. It was a vicious cycle. I see it now, looking back on it, but I didn’t at the time. I didn’t realize that I was trapped in my story! I told myself this negative story over and over and over again and that exact story is what continued to show up in my life. I remember thinking, “How did I become so unlucky?” I was never unlucky in the past. The thing is, my luck never changed, my story did.

 

I finally had an AHA moment one day watching Oprah talk about negative stories. I realized that it was exactly what I was doing and I took her advice and decided to end my current story and write a new one. This one I entitled “Anything is Possible”. It says, “I AM light, I AM love, I AM peace.” It says that there is nothing I can’t do in faith. It says to dream big. I believed my new story and ended up having three “Sharks” fight over me.

                                                                                                                                              

What story are you telling yourself? Whatever you tell yourself will appear in your life. So many of us spin these negative stories and believe them. The truth is, it’s just a story, made up by your mind. If you have been telling yourself how unfair life is and how you get no good breaks, write a new one. Write a story of blessings and abundance and dreams come true. Sound silly? Not to me. There are things in life we can choose and others we can’t. YOU can choose your story. Write a good one my friends!

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